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honorary big sister hours

this week: talking about how heartache can wreck us, celebrating valentine’s day as a single gal, complicated relationships with parents, thoughts on casual sex, are white lies in a relationship that bad? why is cooking for one so hard? how to not cry over romantic rejection and how did i start my instagram?

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barely keeping my head above water through a devastating break up. how does it get better?

the ending of a meaningful relationship, no matter the length of time, can be so disorienting and can make us feel so fucking sad. there isn’t any other way to put it. there is no romantic word for it, there’s no way to make it sound pretty or sophisticated. i feel like sometimes when we’re in a state of suffering or despair, we try to find words to make it sound more grown up. i feel like a bad break up, whether or not it was mutual, is the one thing that is best summed up in the plainest of words: i feel so fucking sad. the first time i experienced heartbreak that i thought was going to kill me was when my first very serious relationship ended.