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i feel so much of this, even at 25❣️

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Jan 8Liked by Ethaney Lee

I teared up at the end. Thank you for sharing such raw emotion with us, ill think about this a lot this week, I feel.

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so much here i relate to: abortion at 23, now 33. i've also thought about parenting as a way to be better than my mom, to prove that i'm not her. i think i'm capable and would be a good parent, and while it would be healing and huge to know i am not the same, it's pretty clear that would be the wrong reason for me. i'm trying to not be guided by fear or perfection.

sending you love from someone much in same the place, thanks for your vulnerability.

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This was, hands down, one of the most beautiful things I have ever read. It made me cry, I felt a rush, I felt deep pangs in my heart. As a fellow 30-something year old with similar familial trauma, this spoke volumes to me. Ethaney, your words truly are a gift!

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Thank you ❤️ I held onto every word as I read this. You are so insightful with your choices and trauma definitely makes being a mom way harder than it should be. I am blessed with a chubby, tearaway little two year old - and I would love a sibling for him - but I’ve known since the first day I fell pregnant with him that one would be all I have, for reasons so similar to yours.

Beautiful writing as always x

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Thank you for always sharing your words, emotions, and experiences with us. Truly grateful for it. All the love to you 🤍

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